Successful women have to fight against so much. Taking care of ourselves, chasing our dreams full force, finally getting to the top spot and then realizing that something’s missing. Too often, we build up the lives around us and forget that we didn’t make time to build a family. Now we begin to rush against the biological clock and other factors that come into play when you try to have a child at a later age. Infertility being one of them. A word that used to be considered ‘taboo’ has almost become, dare I say it a ‘hot topic’ in Hollywood. Something that women are no longer sweeping under the rugs or hiding in the closets. Celebs are being very open and honest with issues such as IVF, pregnancy, adoption, getting a surrogate mother and more.
It can be extremely powerful when celebrities share their honest, vulnerable, and emotional paths to parenthood. It’s extremely easy to be so focused on your career, absolutely killing it, then looking up one day in your mid-30s and realizing you haven’t set aside time to make a family of your own. Is there anything wrong with this? Absolutely not. Are there steps that we should be precautious to take? Yes. One of those being checking where you fall on the biological clock. When you know your AMH levels, you know how many eggs you have left in your ovarian reserve and if you need to take steps to reserve the ones you currently have. You can schedule a test here or by downloading the Secure Your Fertility APP.
According to the CDC and TIME, more than 11% of women in the US suffer from infertility, with 700 million undergoing some type of assisted fertilization technique. The celebrities I mention in this article are a part of the few that have come out publicly to speak on their issues with conception. This is partly because there are many stigmas that can come with infertility, especially when expected to be ‘perfect’. Which is why you can be sure that there are other celebrities who go through the same but just haven’t admitted to it.
Kim Kardashian just announced that her surrogate is pregnant and expecting to deliver by January 2018. Chrissy Teigen let the world know she and John achieved their daughter through IVF and are looking for a second go round. Even the successful model Tyra Banks went the surrogate route when looking to have a child at a later age.
And although not officially admitting, Beyonce is another celebrity who may have undergone IVF as many celebrities do to conceive twins. Whether the speculation is true or not, Beyonce has admitted to suffering from a miscarriage in the past in her ‘Life Is But A Dream’ documentary, stating:
“About two years ago, I was pregnant for the first time and I heard the heartbeat, which was the most beautiful music I ever heard in my life. I picked out names, I envisioned what my child would look like … I was feeling very maternal. I flew back to New York to get my check up — and no heartbeat. Literally the week before I went to the doctor, everything was fine, but there was no heartbeat. I went into the studio and wrote the saddest song I’ve ever written in my life. And it was actually the first song I wrote for my album. And it was the best form of therapy for me, because it was the saddest thing I’ve ever been through.”
Even in the hit movie that just released this past weekend, Girls Trip infertility was touched upon after the main character, Ryan, admitted to her best friends that she wasn’t able to conceive, which may have led.
It’s quite clear why infertility in Hollywood has become larger than usual. This generation of women are much unlike the Baby Boomers, who in their 20s were expected by society to settle down, get married and start a family. The trailblazing women of this time have stricken paths never seen before. From running large corporations, opening our own businesses and even running for president; we’ve accomplished and achieved accolades that were made possible by our ancestors. However, this has come with a price.
Kudos to the women in Hollywood who have peeled the mask off and shown the world that they are human too. That being infertile is something that can affect ANYONE, no matter how much money you may have, and by shining a light to what many women go through.