Experiencing your first failed IVF cycle can be extremely disappointing. I want you to know that you are not alone. You will get through this and what is waiting for you on the other side is much better than what may seem like such a dark place now. See our blog here on how to deal with waiting on conception.
The first measure to take right now is to let yourself grieve a bit. It’s okay to feel disappointment and grief. Give yourself a week or so to get through this before you decide what to do next.
Also keep in mind that there is good news: Just because you have failed an IVF cycle does not mean that you will not be successful on a second or even third cycle. All issues that affect IVF success can be corrected, but I’ve compiled a few that can be addressed to help make the next cycle more likely to result in a pregnancy.
IVF Lab Quality
It’s important to do extensive research on not only your IVF lab, but the doctor you will be working with. Sometimes, doctors are pulled every which way and do not take the much needed time, care and consideration needed for a successful cycle. If the embryo was of good quality, but did not implant, it may be best to try again at a different IVF clinic.
All women have a biological clock that is ticking whether we like to admit it or not. This is exactly why I’ve created the Secure Your Fertility APP, so that women can see how many eggs they have left in their ovarian reserve. According to WINFertility, this starts in your late twenties, and continues to decline until a woman reaches 35 years old. In this day and age, a lot more women are waiting until they are more established in their careers before having children, which may be the cause for increased infertility in America. According to Advanced Fertility, 7% of couples are infertile by age 30 with an increase of 87% by age 45.
According to WINFertility, embryos fail to implant and grow because they have chromosomal or genetic defects. This makes them too “weak” to continue to grow and continue with a successful implantation. If eggs are older, this can also effect if an embryo implants or not.
At times, women can’t produce multiple eggs because their is a select amount in their ovarian reserve. As stated before, the older a woman gets, the less eggs available in her ovarian reserve. There are medications out there that can try to get ovaries to produce multiple eggs. You can download my APP Secure Your Fertility, to see exactly where your AMH levels are and what to do next.
What Should You Do Next
First, you should take a breather. I understand that this is a rough time and I highly suggest holding off for a while before sharing the news with family and friends, You need time to process this.
If the embryo simply did not implant, you can take a deep breath, and try again. Have an important and in-depth conversation with your doctor. They will be able to tell you what your chances are of getting pregnant if you do choose to have another round of IVF.
Lastly, you want to make sure you’re taking care of yourself. Get out and get moving, opt to a healthier diet, abstain from alcohol and drugs and exercise. It’s also important to be kind to yourself and your partner. Yes, this is a stressful time, but it’s important to keep the end goal in mind as well. Wishing you the best!
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I know firsthand what this journey is like as my husband and I have tried to conceive with assisted fertilization for two years. I want my story to help others.